How to Keep Writing Even When Life Is Tough—3 Tips

How to Keep Writing Even When Life Is Tough—3 Tips

Adversity strikes all of us. It can be as simple as welcoming a new puppy or baby into the family, or it could be as complex as caring for a loved one with a terminal illness. Either way, we will all experience times when life is handing us lemons, and, as writers, these are the times when it can be toughest to figure out how to keep writing.

But it’s not impossible, and it shouldn’t have to feel that way either.

Why I Kept Writing When My Life Was at Its Toughest

Before you say, “Oh, she doesn’t know what she’s talking about!” let me tell you this: I’ve been there.

In August 2012, my husband and I got the news no parent wants to hear: your child needs a bone-marrow transplant. Our youngest suffers from a rare disease, and from the moment he was diagnosed, we knew a transplant was always an outside possibility.

For the next year, we were enmeshed in travel for treatment (I moved 2,000 miles from home for the length of the transplant), doctor appointments, and a huge learning curve as I tried to figure out how to deal with this new dynamic.

Liberty and Xander Speidel After Bone Marrow Transplant

Throughout it all, I wrote. I wrote about my experience. I wrote about how our son was doing. And, most importantly, I kept working on the projects I was determined to publish.

Nurses, doctors, and fellow writers had no idea how I was able to continue working. It was a compulsion. I couldn’t not write. It was the one thing that helped keep me sane.

Writing During Adversity Is a Sanity Saver

Emergence Darby Shaw Chronicles Liberty SpeidelDuring the five-and-a-half months I was gone, I wrote tens of thousands of words. I rewrote and edited an entire novel, well over 100,000 words, and began work on what would be my first published novella. I didn’t neglect my son or his care—he spent an unbelievable amount of time sleeping—but in order to get through everything, I had to do something creative.

It wasn’t the ideal situation. But in that time, I learned a lot about not only me, but about how I write.

It takes a lot of time to write a novel. If you have any desire to see your work published, you can’t afford to take time away from a project, just because life is trying to intervene. I’d been working on my goal of publication for too long, and even though I knew I’d be going through one of the hardest patches in my entire life, I promised myself several things. One of those promises was to figure out how keep writing no matter how tough life got.

3 Ways to Keep Writing Through Adversity

If you’ve found yourself in the midst of a difficult season, what can you to keep moving forward with your writing career.

1. Think About Your Priorities

Consider what exactly is going on in your life and understand the time demands that come from it. Maybe you’re getting married and the planning is time consuming… but you’ve got this novel you just don’t want to let go of for a few months. Getting married is quite different than being stuck in a hospital for the better part of five months, and your time restrictions are going to be different. Maybe you can only spare ten minutes a day to write a few paragraphs. Hey, it’s a start!

2. Outline Your Goals

This is where you look at where you want to take your writing career, and realistically try to figure out how to keep writing and stay on track. Ironically, about the time we learned about the need for transplant, I received a partial request from an agent. It was probably good it didn’t pan out since I was not in a position to fulfill any duties to a publisher at that time. But I was already working on my goals, so figuring out how those worked alongside the needs of the medical treatment was just another dimension added to what I already had going.

3. Always Be Doing Something—Even if It’s Not Writing

Shortly after we arrived for treatment, I rediscovered podcasts. I’d been listening to K.M.’s podcasts of her Sunday posts off and on since they began, but now I had a lot fewer demands on my time (in certain ways) and needed something to keep my mind distracted when I couldn’t write—if I was out for a walk, taking a drive, or just needed a break at the hospital. There are a lot of great writing podcasts out there:

The voices in my earbuds became friends and a bit of a lifeline when we were in some of our darkest moments. Let me tell you, you get looked at a little funny if you’re laughing so hard you’re crying from a podcast… and your son is in the middle of the ICU!

Liberty and Xander With Earbuds

When adversity strikes, you don’t have to let your writing fall by the wayside. But it will if you let it. However, you can not only continue on with your goals in the face of harrowing times, you can amaze others with your work ethic. The tenacity to push through is something almost everyone will admire. It’s also a really good feeling as a writer. When I returned home and realized everything I’d managed to accomplish, in addition to having a son who was doing amazingly well, I got a little burst of pride. It made it that much easier to push forward with stronger vigor than before.

If you can get through adverse times and figure out how to keep writing, you’ll find it that much easier to carve out time on days when you’re not in a trial.

Tell me your opinion: Have you ever had to figure out how to keep writing during adversity? What did you?

How to Keep Writing Even When Life Is Tough: Three Tips

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About Liberty Speidel | @LibertySpeidel

Liberty Speidel has been a voracious reader since reading her first Nancy Drew book. But she was telling stories long before then with her figurines from Disney's Rescue Rangers. When she's not writing, she may be found gardening, baking, crocheting, or hiking (with lots of bug spray!). She is also the founder, producer, and co-host of Lasers, Dragons, and Keyboards, a podcast for lovers of and writers of speculative books. A lifelong Kansan, she now resides in the Kansas City metro area with her husband, children, and a spoiled rotten chocolate Labrador. Liberty is the author of The Darby Shaw Chronicles, featuring superhuman detective Darby Shaw.

Comments

  1. I just recently discovered this blog and happened to read this post at exactly the right time! My husband and I are both in college right now AND we have our first baby on the way so sometimes it feels like I’m too swamped and stressed to get everything done, but I know that I can make time in places! Thanks so much for this inspiration to keep moving! I find that writing helps me maintain my sanity when I’m pregnant and hormonal and stressed out anyway, so it’s best if I make the time for it.

  2. My biggest challenge is taking care of my special needs grandson, often getting him on the school bus and picking him up afterwards, keeping him until his Mom or Dad picks him up. During Spring Break I had him 24/7 for eight days and seven nights. Sometimes it’s frustrating when I want to finish a book, etc., but I wouldn’t trade the time I get to spend with him for anything in the world.

  3. Liberty,

    Thanks for sharing this post with me. Timing is so important in life, and this post came at a time when I needed it. I love this story, especially after knowing how well your first novella turned out and knowing that you wrote it during such difficult circumstances. Gives me hope that the work I’m doing now through my difficult times may be good enough to put out there. Thanks again!

    A. Mori

  4. Hey! Yep, writing can be very therapeutic. While my best friend had cancer, I wrote in spurts. After she died, I wrote – a lot. I now have a lot of material and I’m sure some of it will never see the light of day. But I want to put together some of it into a project I have in mind. I could not have worked on an unrelated novel at that time, but I kept the writing muscles limber and am now half done with a new novel.

  5. I finished my thesis last year, but since my supervisor had told me to remake the chapters and content, I cannot even do the chapter 1 for last two months. Its like.. horrifying thing for me. Tell how can I gain interest to complete my thesis on time.

    • please reply me through my email….if possible

      • K.M. Weiland | @KMWeiland says

        Sorry to hear you’re struggling with writer’s block. The good news is there is *always* a solution because there is always a *reason* for the block.

        In my experience, writer’s block is usually caused by one of two things. Either it’s personal, or it has something to do with the story itself.

        Personal blocks can arise out of stressful situations in your life. It could also be you’re burnt out on the story and just need a break.

        Story blocks are much easier. You just have to figure out what it is about the story that’s holding you back from forward progress.

        The first thing I would do is release yourself from the pressure of a publishing deadline. Give yourself as much time as you need to finish this story before even thinking about publishing.

        Then sit down with a pen and paper and start asking yourself lots of questions on the page. What about the story that bothers you?What’s the first step you need to take in fixing it? What if you did this or that? Keep asking and answering the questions until you get to the real root of the problem and find its solution.

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