The 7 Stages of Being a Writer (How Many Have You Experienced?)

The 7 Stages of Being a Writer (How Many Have You Experienced?)If life is a journey and writing is a lifestyle, then we know writing itself is not a destination but a discovery. Some of the stages of being a writer are momentous, life-changing, and unforgettable. (Outlines, story structure, and character arcs were like that for me.) Other discoveries blur past, lost in the hustle and grunt of our forward momentum. But they’re every bit as formative and important.

This spring, I find myself at what feels like a mountain peak within my writing journey. It isn’t the final peak by any means. I can see many a misty mountain looming in the distance. But it has provided one of those rare moments in the writing journey that allow the writer to turn back and look down upon the road so far—to realize I have grown, I am not the same writer I was when I started. Indeed, I’m not even close to being the same person.

That’s exciting. Even better, it’s encouraging, because it means the boulders we all trip over, the mosquitoes we all have to swat, the bears we sometimes have to run from—they don’t last forever.

7 Stages of Being a Writer You Must Overcome

Today, I want to take moment to look back over some of the stages of being a writer that can be the biggest obstacles in the first leg of the artistic journey—and show you how you too can navigate past them on your way up the mountain.

The 7 Stages of Being a Writer

1. I Am a Writing Genius!

Some of us are wise enough to skip this gem altogether. But most of us (*raises hand*) start out writing with the blithe mindset that this is easy, this is fun, and my stories are really, really good. I believe this is actually an incredibly valuable starting mindset, since it prevents discouragement from setting in until after we are well and truly hooked by the addictive nature of creativity.

How to Overcome This Roadblock:

As blissful as this particular bit of ignorance may be, remaining entrenched within it will take the wheels off your writing journey right here and now. You know you’ve taken your first step into the larger world of writing when you come to realize, first of all, that you don’t know anything, and, secondly, you then begin to know what it is you don’t know. You realize there is much to learn about the art and craft of writing a powerful story, and you begin your life’s pursuit of diligently seeking it—sometimes joyously, sometimes painfully, but always doggedly.

Stages of Being a Writer 1 Know What You Don't Know

2. I Feel Guilty for Taking Time to Write (and Then I Feel Guilty for Not Taking Time to Write)

I still remember the agony of indecision in those early years when I started taking my writing seriously. I felt guilty for sitting at my desk instead of doing more “productive” work. I felt guilty for wanting to write rather than ride my horses. I felt guilty for telling people they had to leave me alone during writing time. Sometimes I even felt guilty just because it was a beautiful day outside and I was inside.

And then when I gave in to my guilt and didn’t write, oh boy, there was that whole other wave of guilt to deal with.

Last week, I received an email from reader Cassie Gustafson who perfectly summed up this plateau in the writing life:

I find myself feeling guilty because I’m not writing (which is the worst!), or feeling guilty because I am and have to ignore friends/cat/hubby/social engagements owing to a deadline, or feeling guilty because I didn’t start early enough in my day.

How to Overcome This Roadblock:

This is where the rubber really meets the road, people. If you’re really going to be a writer—if you’re going to make this whole creative lifestyle thing work—this is where it either happens or it doesn’t.

For me, the turning point was a moment in which I found myself angry that family and friends weren’t taking my writing and my writing time seriously. But then it hit me: why should they take it seriously when I wasn’t? From that moment on, writing became a priority in my life. I set up the same daily writing schedule I’ve followed ever since: two hours a day, five days a week. With few meaningful exceptions, writing is first—come rain, shine, holidays, or illness.

Make this commitment and from that moment on, you are a writer.

Stages of Being a Writer 2 Make Your Writing a Priority

3. Maybe Writing Really Isn’t Worth It and I Should Quit

Hey, just because you’re now a writer doesn’t mean this gig is suddenly easy! Some of us will face this conundrum many times in our writing journeys. For me (so far), it was an unforgettable one-time epoch.

Behold the Dawn K.M. WeilandThe spring after I finished what would become my second published book Behold the Dawn, I faced down a quandary of the soul: Am I really meant to be a writer? Is it really a worthy lifetime’s pursuit? Is it what I’m meant to do? I stared into the black maw of this question and all its implications and came this close to giving it all up.

How to Overcome This Roadblock:

Let’s be honest: maybe you won’t overcome this one. Maybe you’ll decide that no, writing isn’t worth it, and you’ll walk away. And that’s fine. As R.A. Salvatore says:

If you can quit, then quit. If you can’t quit, you’re a writer.

I believe this is an important question for every artist to ask themselves at some point in their journey. Creating is about sticking your fist down deep in your soul, ruthlessly clawing at whatever you can find, and then dragging out to be shared in the shocking light of day. If you’re going to spend the rest of your life doing that, then you really should spend some time contemplating the nature of your commitment.

Take a walk into the dark night of your soul. Whatever you find, you’ll be a different person when you come out, and if you decide to keep right on writing, then what you find will fuel your art for the rest of forever.

Stages of Being a Writer 3 Make Sure You Really Want to Be a Writer

4. I Can’t Read Other Writers Because They’ll Influence My Voice

The struggle for authors to find their own unique “voices” can be an all-out, feathers-flying, banty-hen kind of a fight in the early years. Most of us don’t even know what a “voice” is, much less what our voice is, so we do a lot of flailing around, trying to find it. Sometimes, within that fight, we become fearful that reading other writers will somehow warp or contaminate our own fledgling voices.

How to Overcome This Roadblock:

Lie That Tells a Truth John DufresneThe problem here is that reading other writers is, in fact, the single most valuable way to find our voices, to absorb the rhythms of great storytelling, and to learn by example from the best of the best. John Dufresne says it eloquently in The Lie That Tells a Truth:

Don’t be afraid to be influenced by any writer whom you admire. We should be flattered if anyone notices a similarity between our little story and, say, a passage from Melville. If you aren’t influenced by the masters, then you may only be influenced by yourself.

Stages of Being a Writer 4 Read Widely to Find Your Voice

5. I Must Religiously Follow All the Rules (Except That’s Too Hard, So, You Know What?, the Rules Are Obviously Formulaic Cockamamie Created by Talentless Hacks, So I’ll Just Ignore Them, Phew!)

Way back when we overcame Roadblock #1 and realized all the stuff we didn’t know, it actually seemed pretty exciting—comforting even—to discover there was a method to the madness of writing. But the “writing rules” can get overwhelming fast. Some of them don’t make sense right away. Some of them don’t work at all until we come to subsequent understandings about other storytelling principles.

As a result, many writers seesaw back and forth between obsessively observing all rules to the absolute letter of their perception—and then getting frustrated, deciding “art” isn’t supposed to governed by “rules” anyway, and chucking them all out the window.

How to Overcome This Roadblock:

If you follow me on Facebook and Twitter, you’ve probably noticed that on Wednesdays I always share a post from the site’s archives. I started with the blog’s very first post and have been slowly working backwards, post by post, through what has become a very large backlist. I’m quite happy to say I no longer agree with everything I wrote back then (which is why a number of posts have been deleted or extensively rewritten).

One of the subjects I’ve decidedly changed my views on with time and experience is the value of “the rules”—which is to say, the foundation of established wisdom gleaned from centuries of humanity’s storytelling. I love the rules! Indeed, this entire site is dedicated to sharing those “rules.” But with time has also come the equanimity of approaching those rules from the larger understanding of where they apply, where they don’t, and where it’s okay to experiment.

In short, this isn’t actually a roadblock you “overcome.” Stick with those rules, keep digging away at your understanding of the bigger picture—and eventually, their importance, their (I might even call it) kindness, and their exciting possibilities will put to rest both the obsessiveness and the frustration.

Stages of Being a Writer 5 Keep Learning the Rules

6. Other Writers Are Getting All the Breaks—And It Makes Me Sad/Depressed/Jealous/Angry

The art of writing is uniquely suited to make us feel unworthy. Not only are we baring our souls on the page for everyone to gawk at, we are also working in a field in which monetary compensation is decidedly the primary yardstick for “success.”

What this means, of course, is that in the early days when we’re not making any money, getting any publishing deals, selling any books, or otherwise getting anyone to pay any attention to us whatsoever—we will almost inevitably fight the little green-eyed monster as we watch many, many other authors reach the milestones we aspire to.

How to Overcome This Roadblock:

The first thing you must do is come to peace with your own priorities and your own explicit definitions of success and failure. Do not judge yourself by someone else’s yardstick. Understand what you want to achieve with your writing and, more importantly, why.

During the publication of my first two novels, I struggled mightily with feeling like a fraud because they were not traditionally published—until I came to peace with what I wanted from my writing career rather than what I felt others might expect from me.

The second thing you must do is this: Keep your head down and keep working. Success only comes to those who make it happen. I look back on my writing journey and I am incredibly aware of the opportunities I was blessed to be given. But I also worked incredibly hard so I’d be in a position to take advantage of those opportunities. Don’t worry about what others are doing. It truly has nothing to do with you or the possibilities for your future.

Stages of Being a Writer 6 Keep Your Head Down and Keep Working

7. I’ll Never Be a Good Writer

This is often the most tenacious belief any of us ever has to face. Perhaps it never completely disappears. We could fill a book with beloved quotes from other writers (many of them acknowledged masters of the craft) about their own doubts about their abilities, about their struggles with the simple act of getting words onto the page, about their depression when the stories they produced inevitability failed to measure up to the magic in their heads.

We don’t need any help doubting ourselves—but we get plenty of help anyway. Brutally-honest critique partners and editors leave us sitting dazed and wounded, staring at the litter of Track Changes in our manuscripts. Then the book comes out and the reviews start coming in—some of them positive, but many of them candid, angry, even cruel (and you will remember these comments far more than the positive ones).

It all hurts. And what hurts most of all is the dark belief, down deep in your heart, that it’s all true.

How to Overcome This Roadblock:

Just keep writing. The reason it hurts is that is true, whether to a small or large measure. In the beginning, your writing probably is pretty bad. Certainly what you wrote last year is likely to be worse than what you’re writing this year.

What is absolutely true is that you’ll never be a perfect writer. But you’re getting better. With every word you write, you are getting better. And I can promise you this: as time goes by and you increase in your understanding of the craft as a whole and your own body of work in particular, the sting of harsh critiques and bad reviews will wear off.

I used to get the shakes and a sick feeling in my stomach whenever I found a negative review of one of my books on Amazon. What if it’s TRUE??? Now, I can glance at them, accept the person’s right to his opinion, perhaps even grin in amusement, and forget about it almost instantly. At this point in my writing journey, I am no longer dependent upon the good opinion of others for my validation as an author or a person. It was a long road to get here (and indeed the road continues on), but it was worth every difficult step along the way.

Keep walking, keep writing.

Stages of Being a Writer 6 Trust Your Work is Improving

Perhaps you now find yourself high enough on the mountain to look back and smile at the memory of all of these stops along your path. Perhaps you’ve only passed a few them so far. Perhaps you recognize the current battleground where you find yourself struggling, bleeding, and moving forward step by step.

Wherever you are in the stages of being a writer, remember the path leads ever onward and upward. Every part of the adventure offers its own challenges, struggles, and doubts. But every one of these challenges will find an exciting and invaluable resolution. I look forward to seeing you on the mountain peak, so together we can journey on to still greater heights!

Wordplayers, tell me your opinion! What are some of the major stages of being a writer that you’ve experienced so far? Tell me in the comments!

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  1. J.M Barlow says

    Thanks for the encouraging post; came at a good time. Got a lot on my mind right now.

    My friend is also a creative mind, but sometimes I wonder about his commitment to the process. He likes to ride the highs of a new idea and getting things started, but tends to trail off because he doesn’t keep at ‘er every day… or when it begins to feel like work. On to the next idea. It’s a little frustrating to watch, as his ideas are very solid.

    The problem for me was that this friend of mine is supposed to be working with me on the graphic novel project – we were partnering up to do it. Except that he doesn’t seem to feel like contributing once it feels like a commitment. He told me he’s starting to work on this other idea he had and showed me stuff – ignorant to the fact that he’s basically jumping ship. That’s the message he’s sending me…

    So it’s frustrating. I know this is a bit of an aside to the topic at hand, but I think it’s applicable as he isn’t taking his aspirations seriously. Not like I am. My schedule fluctuates some, but on a good week I dump 15-20 hours into my work (I’m a full 40 hours a week at work with 4 hours of commuting, and a single father half the time. So the REST of my time goes into this, pretty much. Thankfully, a lot of my interests lie in my research so it’s enjoyable most of the time. I enjoy the process. I love working. I love trying to improve things I’m not good at – or need to be better at. I love it. I know I’m meant to do this.

    I am at a crossroads with the project at hand, because of my friend. Do you have advice on this matter?

    • K.M. Weiland | @KMWeiland says

      I’ve written elsewhere about how it’s not enough for an author to be good at either ideas or execution–we must be good at both. Ideas are, admittedly, more fun. Execution is where discipline really comes into play.

      Honestly, it sounds to me as if this is a relationship issue as much as anything. If he’s holding you back, you have to be willing to either cut him loose or work your way forward in the relationship.

  2. I’m still working on some of these!

    I am a writing genius!
    I’ve felt like this a lot of times; those times get fewer and further between, as I realize more how much I still need to improve. But I have also learned to appreciate the writing that I can look back on even after several years and still think, “Wow, that’s really good!”

    I feel guilty for taking time to write (and then I feel guilty for not taking time to write)
    I’ve never really felt guilty about writing; I definitely have for not writing, though. There have been long periods where I didn’t write at all, and I felt really badly about it although I needed those breaks.

    Maybe writing really isn’t worth it and I should quit
    Yes! Many times. I guess the fact that I keep coming back to it has convinced me that I must really be a writer.

    I can’t read other writers because they’ll influence my voice
    Strangely, I’ve never had a problem with this. I have had the problem of reading an author I really admire and falling into depression over the fact that I could never match up to that author, so why even try anymore?
    I have gotten to the point where I can read really good writing without jealousy or despair, but try to find out what it is about them that makes me like them so much.

    I must religiously follow all the rules
    I really got caught up in this one for a while. When I realized that there are a thousand rules, and 500 of them conflict with the other 500, I decided to take each one with a grain of salt. There are plenty of them that make sense, but even the best ones can’t be followed 100%, so I have to decide which ones are most important, and when.

    Other writers are getting all the breaks — and it makes me sad/depressed/jealous/angry
    I used to get so mad because I would read a published book with bad writing or a lame plot or whatever and I would know that in all likelihood my (I thought) far superior writing would never be touched by any publisher.
    I’m now content mostly to write, no matter if I ever make a dollar off of it or not.

    I’ll never be a good writer
    Yep, I’ve had this one in spades. It’s probably the hardest one to overcome, and I’ve never fully overcome it.
    Bad reviews do bother me a bit, but mostly they bother me if I feel like the reader missed the point or something; but I can usually brush it off after a while. It can be hard, though, to take a negative review. It hurts, somehow, especially when it’s a criticism of something you’re proud of. Sometimes I’ve found that the reviewer actually has good points and the review has helped me to improve my writing.

    • K.M. Weiland | @KMWeiland says

      Personally, I believe one of the most empowering realizations/decisions any author can come to is that of realizing the art is an end in itself. Yes, it’s great if we also earn money and adulation. But if that’s the only point, something’s missing. And if it’s *not* the only point, then the art is capable of fulfilling and rewarding us in far greater ways all on its own.

  3. I am currently on the sixth stage of my writing journey. And it is looking pretty tough to overcome this roadblock. Because I know for a fact that it takes every other writer almost as much time as it is taking me to get success, but still, it is a hard spot, the feeling of being the only one left behind. Even though I know there are others struggling in the same way. :,(

    • K.M. Weiland | @KMWeiland says

      You’re definitely not alone. Even some of the writers we now consider our literary greats suffered in silence and rejection for decades before finding success.

    • Nadia Syeda says

      I realize that I might never become an author. I might forever publish my books on online sites like Wattpad, but I decided to cherish that. I’m trying to cherish every comment on my passage, laugh along with my readers, and feel proud when a person cries at one of my words. Sure, it’s not a “book”, it’s online, but I’m still reaching people, I have an audience, and even if I die, and I’m still not published, and forgotten, I think it was worth spending my time like that.

  4. I have to thank Chautona Havig for introducing me to your site. Your blog posts are far superior to the overwhelming “noise” of writing advice on the web.

    As I read The Seven Stages of Being a Writer, the numerous truths astonished me. And surprisingly, I discovered something about myself. I am not unique in my writing journey.

    For example, I have struggled with the guilt of “I should be writing” so this year I set a new schedule for myself. Yup, two hours per day five days a week. First year I committed to four hours per day 6 days a week – writing became drudgery rather than pleasure.

    While editing my second book I decided that the Rules don’t apply to most of the art world so why should they apply to writing? Later I determined that was a stupid analogy.

    I only recently came to the realization that writing is a journey, not a destination. While I know I have a great deal to learn, and that my sensitive self has to toughen up, it’s definitely a trip that most days I want to take – if only to see where it leads.

    Bless you for taking the time to do what you do and for reading these rambling thoughts. BB

    • K.M. Weiland | @KMWeiland says

      I have always been someone naturally adapted to organization and schedules. But something I’ve been learning of late is the blessing and power of letting life guide us. Discipline is, of course, crucial. But when we’re struggling to stick to a difficult schedule, sometimes we do more harm than good. Sometimes the best thing we can do is take a step back, listen to what life is telling us and give ourselves just a little more breathing room. I’m discovering sometimes I’m actually more productive than ever when I do this.

      Great to hear you’re enjoying the site!

  5. Eric Troyer says

    Nice post! I part caught me particularly:

    “From that moment on, writing became a priority in my life. I set up the same daily writing schedule I’ve followed ever since: two hours a day, five days a week. With few meaningful exceptions, writing is first—come rain, shine, holidays, or illness.”

    I’m wondering a couple of things. Do you still follow this schedule or do you spend more time writing? If more, how did you ramp it up? Also, what do you consider “writing”? Brainstorming? Outlining? Blog posts? Responding to blog post replies?

    I first started lumping all my writing activities together. Finally, I realized I was spending a lot of time reading about writing and little time actually writing. I read a post about an author (Gertrude Stein?) who wrote for just a half hour a day. So, that’s where I’m at now, actually writing for a half-hour a day. I plan to ramp that up as I shed some other commitments.

    • K.M. Weiland | @KMWeiland says

      Yep, with the occasional exception here or there, this is still the schedule I follow. “Writing time” is always for fiction. Marketing, blogging, and non-fiction books/projects are given their own slots in the daily schedule. That said, I consider *anything* that has to do with fiction to be game for “writing time.” It just depends what part of the process I’m focusing on: outlining, researching, drafting, or revising.

      • Eric Troyer says

        Thanks for the info. You’ve put out an impressive number of quality books on just 10 hours a week. That really shows what you can accomplish with persistence.

        • K.M. Weiland | @KMWeiland says

          Well, I’m no one-book-a-year author. 🙂 But I like it that way. I much prefer to take my time and savor the process.

  6. Eric Troyer says

    Er. ONE part caught me particularly.

  7. I’ve read pretty much all the comments and there isn’t anything I can add that hasn’t already been said multiple times 🙂

    I’ll keep this short and sweet

    Thank you <3

  8. I saw an innovative farmer, Joel Salatin, explain his work until it sounded like he wasn’t talking about farming, but living.

    Now I can add K.M. Weiland to that panel.

    1. Are regular writers more genius than country music song writers. Those people make more out of bad relationships than any genre.

    2. Time Guilt? If you make money writing, then it’s money guilt? Until then it’s just guilt looking for a place to land. Push it off writing time.

    3. Writing may not be worth it some days, but quitting is a lifetime of ‘what if I hadn’t quit?’ and accusing the television of stealing the story ideas you can never quit on, just the writing. Anyone can quit, but who sticks?

    4. Influential reading. Don’t we all hope new writers will read us? Like an old man in a gym doing pull ups, and a young kid says, “I hope I can do that at his age,” and can’t do one now. I’m reading Thomas Wolfe’s Look Homeward Angel and feel it helping. Helping me avoid huge sentences.

    5. The Rules won’t ruin a good story, just make it unreadable. After a few rules ‘experiments’ how many readers close the book, click off, leave? There’s a reason James Joyce didn’t write everything in gibberish.

    6. Other writers doing well is a good sign of hope. Someone’s reading something. The only time they bother me is when they put something out a poor effort, like your favorite actor starring in a bad movie for the money, and it shows.

    7. A Hemingway quote has him saying all writers are in a profession full of apprentices and no masters.

    Thanks for the great read, K.M. Weiland.

    PS: I came over here from twitter.

  9. I love this! I am probably at Stage 5 – tripping over the rules, kicking them out of the way, then scrambling to gather them up again. I’ve definitely been through the first four. Thanks for lighting up the path!

    • K.M. Weiland | @KMWeiland says

      Honestly, that’s one of the best stages. 🙂 It’s tough, but it’s where all the lights come on.

  10. Hi K. M.

    I thought you might like to know that it was you who taught me the rules.

    I knew a lot of them – sort of – but I struggled to put them together. My first book took my two years of stressful pantsing to write. So about two years ago I put my writing aside and I set out to learn the rules. I knew that plotting and understanding the whys and wherefores of the plot would make a huge difference to what I wrote.

    I stumbled across your website and I read it all! I listened to your podcasts too and bought your books. I had previously tried out other plotting books but I found your brought everything together for me: the plot, the character arc, the antagonist’s character arc, the setting – well you get the picture!

    I took everything I learned from you and created a Scrivener template for myself. I still use this now, for every book I write and I would not be without!

    So, thank you very, VERY much for all the time and resources you give to help us, writers, become authors. Without the generosity of people like you, I don’t think I would be doing what I do now.

    • K.M. Weiland | @KMWeiland says

      Well, cool beans! 🙂 Makes my day to hear the site has been useful in your writing journey.

  11. The “I wrote a thing, and now people have read it and expect more…but what if what I write next doesn’t live up to their expectations?” stage. This actually made me sick to my stomach once or twice, until I got ARC reviews back of Books 3 & 4 of my series and realized that whatever “spark” I had when writing 1 & 2 hadn’t deserted me and never would. People like what I write because what I write is me, and as long as I keep being me, and keep learning/growing/practicing/seeking improvement, whatever I write down the road will always be better than what came before.

    • K.M. Weiland | @KMWeiland says

      Ah, yes, the dreaded sophomore novel syndrome! The only cure I know is to write that next book, throw it out to the wolves (aka, readers), then write the next one. 😉

  12. This is a wonderful post, K.M.! I have been through all these in various forms, many, many times. There are valleys and peaks to writing… Sometimes you’re on a mountain, and sometimes you are inches from giving up. But if you love it, you always find your way back 🙂 Thank you for this!

  13. I think there may be an unhealthy adherence to “the rules” mentioned in #5, especially for genre fiction writers these days. I’ve been reading more and more novels that seem to fall into a handful of predictable formulae, because those are rules that have worked. Thanks to the easy access to information that can allow you to learn innumerable rules of writing. It’s a delicate balance to strike when trying to know just which rules you need to break in any given piece, but when an author gets it right, it can be an exhilarating thing to read. I absolutely prefer leaving the road to wander a bit in the woods, so long as I still end up where I’m going.

    I have also been thinking about #6 a lot lately. I think everyone feels this way early on in most artistic endeavors. I also think it’s important to remember that it’s always best to focus on improvement and to do any sort of art because you love it. I know that’s hollow for someone who wants to quit their job and become a full-time writer, but there were many authors whose very motivation came from the struggle. Some of those writers find themselves lacking motivation to write when that’s all they have to do.

    Thanks, this was a great article. It’s rare to find so much content behind a single click lately.

  14. Great post and oh so true. For me I climbed that mountain a little way but seem to have slipped back. Maybe I didn’t push hard enough when I’d ascended a few metres. You can mentor me any time! 🙂

  15. Yeah, currently in the thick of #2. I feel guilty when i don’t spend more time reading to my boys, or the fact that this year i didn’t plant a single thing in my garden, or that i don’t plan play dates or get together with people more. But i really love writing. it’s a creative release for me and my husband encourages it because he loves to see me love it! so then i feel guilty for not writing, for working on other things that i don’t find as satisfying but others approve of more readily. back and forth, back and forth. sigh…

  16. Everything you said here is exactly what I’m experiencing right now. Only the over-confidence thing was one that I never have…and I feel like my story is so so unoriginal and no one will want it because it’s dull cheesy and cliché. I’m finding it really hard to persevere. 😣

  17. The one and only thing here that I don’t currently struggle with is thinking my story is amazing and I’m a great writer. I’ve received loads of positive feedback but I feel like they aren’t being honest…they are just saying it to make me feel better.
    But I struggle with everything else mentioned here every single day.
    Still, I look back on my old writing and instead of saying I’m terrible, I can tell myself I’ve improved so much and come so far! 😆

  18. It seems my experience is quite different than yours. I never felt a lot of these. I listened to J. Michael Straczynski’s speech. He seems to have had a very different experience as well


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